Some people will tell you to always say ‘Yes’. To those people I say “No thank-you”. What is true (in my opinion) is that you should say yes when you ‘feel’ it, not when you ‘think’ it. This played out beautifully for me recently. I was invited to join a friend at a Leadership Gathering on Necker Island. I felt the yes come from somewhere and it was out of my mouth before I could think about it. So off I went.
As I’m sure you’d expect to hear from me, is that it was an incredibly rewarding and entertaining experience. While this is completely true, it was also a surprising experience. I went there to learn and grow, to invest in my own personal development – something I don’t do enough of. I don’t know what I was expecting to learn but it was not what I came away with. It turns out, I went to Necker to, surprisingly, learn what I already know. I had some powerfully simple reminders that are going to never be far from my decision making ever again. I was reminded and retrained on what we all know to be true. But do we know these so well they become meaningless? During my time on Necker Island with the Virgin Unite crew, these lessons took on a powerful new meaning and I will cherish my re-learning experience.
I’ll share four with you now:
1. If you are always striving, aiming, fighting (you get the gist) you will achieve success but not contentment. Your life’s work needs to pull you towards it. In a way that you can’t help but do it. If it feels like hard work, it’s not your bag.
2. If you don’t believe in what you’re selling, we won’t either. You can always tell when people are talking to you about something that deeply connects with their beliefs. They don’t need to be the best public speakers, you can’t help but be drawn to them, to want to learn more. Anything else is just selling and most of us aren’t buying.
3. My inner hospitality nerd was reminded of the true grace that is “hosting” people. Anticipating someones needs, being happy in the act of service, luxury in the abundance of small things. We all can and should do this more for those we cherish.
4. Expect Less, Enjoy More.